The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship. Criticism The first horseman is criticism. Criticizing your partner is…
Do you want to create a richer connection with your partner? To have those conversations that are intimate and meaningful? Are you shutting down opportunities for a deeper relationship with someone you love by the way you talk with them? Wait, I’m sorry. Let me try those questions again. How do you connect better with…
Frequently criticizing your partner or being criticized by them can create a lot of tension in your relationship. It can make you feel like you’re constantly under attack or as though nothing you do is good enough. A person being constantly criticized is likely to find it hurtful and demoralizing and may grow to resent…
Second marriages It can be easy to assume that the second marriage will be easier than the first. After all, practice makes perfect, right? And while this can be true in lots of ways, remarrying can come with its own range of complications and concerns. Problems in second marriages – reliving the past One of…
Labor of love – or labor versus love?, A report that looks at our relationships and work, examining the quality of our relationships at work and the extent to which we’re able to balance work and relationships effectively. We know that both love and labor are important for our well being. We’re social animals and…
Why communication isn’t always the most important thing in a relationship There is a popular belief that ‘communication’ is the most important thing in a relationship. When couples come to counseling they often say their problem is with ‘communication’. And the thing they want to fix about their relationship is their ‘communication’. And if only…
Being ‘good enough in bed’ is a preoccupation of many people, yet few have a definite idea of what ‘good enough’ means. Performance is rarely what is most important about the sexual experience, and worrying about performance can spoil it. Being in the moment allows you to appreciate the closeness you feel during sex with…
Your Couple Fit In some relationships, arguments always seem one sided – with one partner making all the noise as the other quietly calms the storm. It’s possible they both have a problem expressing their feelings, but together they’re able to reassure each other that emotions are being managed. Different couples will experience it…
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