The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse is a metaphor depicting the end of times in the New Testament. They describe conquest, war, hunger, and death respectively. We use this metaphor to describe communication styles that, according to our research, can predict the end of a relationship. Criticism The first horseman is criticism. Criticizing your partner is…
Do you want to create a richer connection with your partner? To have those conversations that are intimate and meaningful? Are you shutting down opportunities for a deeper relationship with someone you love by the way you talk with them? Wait, I’m sorry. Let me try those questions again. How do you connect better with…
Second marriages It can be easy to assume that the second marriage will be easier than the first. After all, practice makes perfect, right? And while this can be true in lots of ways, remarrying can come with its own range of complications and concerns. Problems in second marriages – reliving the past One of…
Moaning can sound like a lighthearted problem, or something that’s not that serious. And while there’s nothing wrong with the occasional moan — in fact, it’s usually positive and healthy to express negative feelings, if it’s constantly happening in your relationship, it can begin to have an effect. On one level, constant moaning can create…
Developing a crush on someone when you’re already in a long-term, committed relationship can leave you feeling guilty and confused. You may think it’s a betrayal of your partner but you might also be wondering whether your feelings are trying to tell you something. If this is how you feel right now, try not to…
5 communication tips to try with your partner It’s no great secret that communication is an important part of any relationship. What’s less understood is how to be a good communicator and just how beneficial building good communication habits into your relationship can be. And while there’s no single, simple solution for making this happen,…
Why communication isn’t always the most important thing in a relationship There is a popular belief that ‘communication’ is the most important thing in a relationship. When couples come to counseling they often say their problem is with ‘communication’. And the thing they want to fix about their relationship is their ‘communication’. And if only…
Being ‘good enough in bed’ is a preoccupation of many people, yet few have a definite idea of what ‘good enough’ means. Performance is rarely what is most important about the sexual experience, and worrying about performance can spoil it. Being in the moment allows you to appreciate the closeness you feel during sex with…
Most people know what physical abuse is, but when it comes to emotional abuse, people tend to think there’s much more of a ‘grey area’. They might know it has something to do with treating your partner badly – name calling or making them feel small – but not be clear on what’s actually classed…
There’s no formula for knowing when you should leave a relationship – it can be really stressful and confusing trying to make a decision. You may think things haven’t been right for a while but still feel undecided about whether you could work through your issues. While you might clearly remember how good things used…
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